The 9 Key Principles for Successful Parenting - Renee Mill
Laurence Steinberg. The 10 Basic Principles of Good Parenting. More important, the study of parenting is an area of research in which the findings are remarkably consistent, and where the findings have remained remarkably consistent over time. This is not at the absence of realism. Good parenting is parenting that helps children succeed in school; it promotes the development of intellectual curiosity, motivation to learn, and desire to achieve. Good parenting is parenting that deters children from antisocial behavior, delinquency, and drug and alcohol use.
Good parenting is parenting that helps protect children against the development of anxiety, depression, eating disorders, and other types of psychological distress. What you do matters. Tell yourself that every day. We humans are tactile creatures, and we have a natural need for physical contact with others. Quality time is all about how you do it. Quality time is defined by your state of mind, not by a set of activities.
In high school , limit your involvement in her homework to what she explicitly requests from you. It also involves changes in the way your child thinks, in the feelings he has, in the things he is capable of, in the way he thinks about himself, and in the way he relates to other people including you. This requires knowing what makes your child tick, being flexible in your parenting, and treating your child as an individual.
The issue is how you will resolve them and how you and your child feel when you walk away from the dispute. Is what my child wants to do unhealthy? Illegal or immoral? Likely to lead to trouble? If something goes wrong, are the consequences irreparable or difficult to undo? You do this by being consistent from day to day in your parenting.
Familiar routines make children feel safe and secure, because they feel more in control when they know what to expect. The younger your child is, the more important it is for spouses to be consistent with each other. This is true regardless of whether you are married, separated, divorced, or remarried. Err on the side of caution.
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Decide on the basis of which one of you has more relevant expertise. Decide on the basis of which parent is going to bear the brunt of the decision. When all else fails, decide on the basis of equity between the two of you. There are only three basic ways to get your child to change his behavior: punish, reward, or explain. If you are choosing between two equally effective forms of punishment, I hope you will use the same logic.
If you treat your child with compassion, kindness, and respect, she will grow up to be a concerned, caring, and considerate person. While many may have contentions with some principles especially the corporeal punishment piece , it is absolutely necessary, for the deeply important task of child-rearing, that we all seriously consider the studies, the principles, the suggestions, exhortations, etc. Read it now. Addressing logistical issues may make it easier to the parent to attend a parenting program or service.
Parenting support can enhance the development of healthy, positive parent—child interactions and this may be especially beneficial when parents are facing challenges that may compromise their parenting capacity.
However, unless a program meets a parent's needs and is appropriate to their circumstances, the potential benefits of a parenting program could be lost. Key elements of three effective Australian parent education programs provide an insight into the critical factors that need to be considered in order for practitioners to assess and respond to the parenting support needs of parents in disadvantaged families.
Triple-P is a commerically available program that follows a set structure according to the program manual. It is grounded in established social learning models of child management and information processing factors such as attributions that contribute to parenting self-efficacy and decision-making. Depending on the program level, various methods of engagement with parents are used to build parental competence - from easily digested tips, comprehensive information about specific behaviours and constructive strategies for their management, through to active skills training, self-reflection, and examination of the couple relationship.
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Evaluation studies of Triple-P attest to the benefits to parents and children across a number of domains and for various target groups. At the heart of the Tuning Into Kids program are skills that allow people to manage their responses to their own and others' emotions. Children's understanding of emotions, how to convey and regulate them appropriately, and how to interact with others at an emotional level are skills that have been found to be associated with positive outcomes for children.
Emotional competence for children means being able to express feelings and cope with emotions appropriately and flexibly. How parents understand, express and regulate their own feelings, how they respond to their child's emotions, and how they talk about emotions with their children influences the way in which the child builds their understanding of and capacity to respond to emotions.
Within the program, attention is also paid to what parents can expect of children at different developmental stages, for example in terms of their worldview, their fears, or the language they are able to use or understand. Tuning Into Kids is a commerically available program that follows a set structure according to a program manual. Although the program relies upon a manual, individual facilitators are able to "tweak" the program to meet the needs of specific client groups Parker, It has also been adapted for work with individual clients. PUP was designed as a one-on-one intensive intervention offered primarily in the family home.
Therapists liaise closely with providers of other services Dawe, Accredited PUP therapists use a manual that provides the theoretical overview behind the program and a Parent workbook that contains 12 modules. There are costs associated with becoming an accredited PUP therapist.
While PUP is a structured program, the individual modules within the program can be delivered according the priorities decided in consultation with the family. The program is also adaptable to the specific needs of the parent involved. The program plan is established in the first session and subsequently reviewed and revised to accommodate what is happening in the parent's life from week to week.
These issues might include the stress associated with psychological problems, housing and financial strain, and enhancing the family's social engagement Dawe et al. The aim of the program is to improve parents' capacity to nurture their children and reduce aversive parenting through targeting relevant parental behaviours and cognitions, and to expand parents' range of emotional and behavioural responses to their children.
The program addresses parenting skills as well as areas identified in the research literature for which parents in high-risk families require assistance. These include:. The program works across the individual, interpersonal and family levels, while also taking into account the social context and lifestyle of the family. As a program targeting high-risk families facing multiple problems the pool of families referred to or willing to participate in the program is small.
While group programs such as Triple-P and Tuning Into Kids are able to compile sizeable databases in relatively short timeframes, as an intensive program based on a case management approach it can take a considerable time for the PUP team to achieve a sufficiently large sample for detailed analysis. As such, large-scale evaluation studies of the program have not yet been undertaken. This Practice Sheet focuses on formal types of parenting support; that is, support provided by services.
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The factors that make parenting programs successful were identified by Holzer et al. However, the focus of Holzer et al. Engaging disadvantaged families in child and family services McDonald, Copyright information. Children living in families with parental substance abuse are at high risk of child maltreatment and associated adverse outcomes.
The 9 Key Principles for Successful Parenting
An overview of the research literature on the outcomes of children raised in families with multiple problems including parental substance misuse. CFCA offers a free research and information helpdesk for child, family and community welfare practitioners, service providers, researchers and policy makers through the CFCA News. Google Tag Manager. Assessing and responding to parenting support needs in disadvantaged families: Lessons from parent education programs Assessing and responding to parenting support needs in disadvantaged families: Lessons from parent education programs Robyn Parker and Myfanwy McDonald CAFCA Practice Sheet— November Why is parenting support important?
Assessing a parent's needs Parents come to parent support services with varying needs. Questions to consider What is the parent specifically concerned about? For example, is their concern focused on the child's behaviour, the parent-child relationship or both? Are the parent's concerns grounded in the present or are they future-oriented? That is, do they need help with a specific problem now, or are they also concerned about the quality of their relationship with their child into the future?
Will the parent's needs be met by information alone e. What resources does the parent currently have to deal with the issues they are concerned about e. Your email address will not be published. Notify me of new posts by email. Do you wish there were clear guidelines that would help you face your parenting challenges? When you read this e-book on the 9 key principles for successful parenting, you will learn: What the nine key principles of positive parenting are and how to apply them in your everyday life.
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