If you can - decide together how you will work on the issues to create the change How she can help you change or be more confident If the concerns are real and change is out of the question Then your girlfriend must decide who is more valuable to her. I will tell you that if you plan for the long term the relationship between you and your girlfriend must be the most valuable next to God. If a boyfriend or girlfriend is going to jeopardize that relationship then a severing or lessening of ties must be considered.
You should not force yourself into an uncomfortable situation if it can be helped. Ideally Love in the circle is preferred Weigh the options and let the decision be something you are comfortable with. Beautifully written and wonderful reminders. In my life and in my own practice with clients will I encourage self-love.
Thank you Raji. I'm always so pleased to know I've inspired a person toward him or her best self. Best regards Deborah. Back Psychology Today. Back Find a Therapist. Back Get Help.
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Back Today. Do Different Types of Narcissists Exist? Cranial Electrostimulation and Anxiety. Deborah Khoshaba Psy. People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel, and want. They are mindful of who they are and act on this knowledge, rather than on what others want for them. Act on what you need rather than what you want. You love yourself when you can turn away from something that feels good and exciting to what you need to stay strong, centered, and moving forward in your life, instead.
By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love. Practice good self-care. You will love yourself more, when you take better care of your basic needs.
People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition , exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions. Set boundaries. You'll love yourself more when you set limits or say no to work, love, or activities that deplete or harm you physically, emotionally and spiritually, or express poorly who you are. Protect yourself.
Bring the right people into your life. I love the term frenemies that I learned from my younger clients. It describes so well the type of "friends" who take pleasure in your pain and loss rather than in your happiness and success. My suggestion to you here: Get rid of them! There isn't enough time in your life to waste on people who want to take away the shine on your face that says, "I genuinely love myself and life. Forgive yourself. We humans can be so hard on ourselves.
The downside of taking responsibility for our actions is punishing ourselves too much for mistakes in learning and growing. You have to accept your humanness the fact that you are not perfect , before you can truly love yourself. Practice being less hard on yourself when you make a mistake. Remember, there are no failures, if you have learned and grown from your mistakes; there are only lessons learned.
Live intentionally. You will accept and love yourself more, whatever is happening in your life, when you live with purpose and design. Your purpose doesn't have to be crystal clear to you. If your intention is to live a meaningful and healthy life, you will make decisions that support this intention, and feel good about yourself when you succeed in this purpose. You will love yourself more if you see yourself accomplishing what you set out to do. You need to establish your living intentions, to do this. Reply Submitted by Deborah Khoshaba on February 20, - pm. Thank you Patricia. I'm so glad you liked what you found here.
Be well Deborah. Who you are Submitted by Don on December 27, - pm. Self love not working Submitted by Sue Clancy on February 9, - am. A great analogy Rita.
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Thanks, Eric. Self love Submitted by Deborah on September 23, - pm. Easy to get tired Submitted by Don on December 30, - pm. Thank you Rita. I'm so pleased the article spoke to you. Best regards. Reply Submitted by Deborah Khoshaba Psy. Where do I start, please Submitted by Thierry on February 3, - pm. Thierry, it WILL get better! I promise YOU! Submitted by Floweringsoul on March 3, - pm. So beautiful and makes me Submitted by Tammy on October 27, - pm. So beautiful and makes me hope! If she does not share or care Submitted by Tina on April 26, - am.
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Dear Thierry, Submitted by Jessica on January 20, - pm. Dear Thierry, I was incredibly moved by your words and I felt great empathy towards you. Kind regards, Jessie. Self love Submitted by Soha on July 22, - pm. Deborah, sorry i made a mistake in adressing my above post to Rita, it is meant for you. Some of these posts are addressed to the wrong person? Submitted by Floweringsoul on April 28, - pm.
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Hi, Do you have any easy read books on humanity and self love if you have read any that were helpful please let me know their titles. Deborah, I loved your article.
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You hit the nail on the head. So Perfect!! Thank you Amel. I'm very Submitted by Deborah Khoshaba Psy. I'm very pleased. Best Deborah. Thank you so much Aya. Self-love - the root problem Submitted by Ann on February 8, - am.
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I'm worth it Submitted by Ranj on November 27, - am. I laugh as I read your comment. Thierry is clearly only capable of one type of 'self-love'! Submitted by Dr Ben Dover on April 26, - am. I presume your testicles were awarded to her in the separation? Artwork Submitted by Cee on June 28, - pm. I believe that a significant Submitted by davidenmeshed on August 25, - am. I agree David. Thanks, I enjoyed your Submitted by Petra on August 26, - pm. Submitted by Tammy on October 27, - pm. Self Love Submitted by tiftown on November 8, - pm.
A tough decision Submitted by Chorra on December 4, - pm. Be aware of your thoughts Submitted by Y Renee on February 15, - pm. Hello Chorra, It's very courageous to decide that you have to make some changes. Thank you for your fine comment! So true Renee. Thank you for your comment.
A practical Submitted by Connie Pillon on April 9, - pm. A practical approach to self-love with action steps. Self-Love Submitted by Marilin on August 4, - am. Beautifully written and Submitted by Renee on December 30, - am. Very Motivating and Straight forwardly written! Submitted by raji on February 8, - pm. Learn five tips for boosting your willpower. Find out how to set up the right environment for changing your habits. Of course, this negative feedback does not make people feel good.
Even in the later stages of behavior change, people still enjoy getting positive feedback more than they enjoy getting negative feedback. But at the later stages of change, the positive feedback is not nearly as motivating as the negative feedback. Although it can be difficult to give negative feedback, it is important to be willing to make people uncomfortable when working with them to change behavior. Studies suggest that when you focus people on the contribution they have made at work, they are happy with their current job but they do not actively seek a promotion.
If you focus people on what still remains to be achieved in their careers, then they feel bad about their current job but are motivated to move upward. Remind yourself that giving negative feedback to people who are already committed to behavior change can spur them to improve. In his book The Checklist Manifesto , surgeon Atul Gawande extols the virtues of checklists in a variety of situations in which the same task has to be performed repeatedly.
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When these lines get infected, it can put ICU patients who are already quite sick in serious danger. As Gawande points out, if the ICU staff covers the patient with a drape when the line is being inserted and uses chlorhexidine soap, then the incidence of these infections goes down dramatically. Hospitals in Michigan got a medical equipment manufacturer to bundle the drapes and the soap in a single kit and then gave staff in the ICUs a checklist to make sure that they carried out each step in the same order every time.
This combination of changes to the environment and routine created a consistent mapping that was repeated often. It lowered the incidence of central line infections to near zero, which greatly improved patient outcomes. When you want to change the behavior of the people around you, think about how you can create consistent mappings in the environment. Are there methods of getting people to reorganize their environment in ways that will support the creation of habits?
People want to minimize both the amount of time spent thinking about their behavior and the amount of effort required to act. You want to make the desirable behaviors as easy as possible to perform and the undesirable behaviors hard to perform. California bans smoking in workplaces—and indeed, in any public space.
As a result, employees have to walk a long way just to have a cigarette—which in many circumstances makes smoking very hard to do. There are other ways to manipulate environments to encourage desired behaviors. The city of Austin has installed a number of dog hygiene stations all over town. These stations consist of a garbage can with a liner and a dispenser with plastic mitts that can be used to pick up dog waste. These stations make it easier for dog owners to clean up after their dogs, which cuts down on the number of people who fail to do so.
Generating communities around a process is an efficient way of engaging people to change their behavior. That is the function of groups like Toastmasters International, which aims to help people improve their public speaking skills. Toastmasters organizes groups of people who get together, give presentations, and give feedback to each other. The atmosphere is professional but relaxed, so the community works to help others get more comfortable with speaking in public.
Many people who have been helped by this group continue to attend meetings to help new members improve their skills. As a child care provider, you soon discover that developing positive relationships with parents is critical to providing the best care possible to their children. Here are 3 key steps to follow when having difficult conversations with parents.
Building positive relationships with parents is critical to provide the best care possible for their children. Parents and children are a two-for-one deal: Developing positive relationships with parents is critical to providing the best care possible to their children. This can be a real benefit since you might already share an open, trusting relationship with the parents. But this familiarity can also raise some challenges when you are caring for their children.
Even when your relationship with a parent s is warm and positive, sharing the care of a young child often stirs up strong feelings. This may be more of a concern when the caregiver is someone the parent and child both know well—a relative, friend or neighbor. Here are two fairly typical experiences that come up when sharing the care:. Sarita got into her car, really angry.
When she dropped off her month-old, Malika, that morning, she mentioned to her friend, Angela who cares for Malika , how impossible Malika has been in the mornings. Angela seemed really surprised. She is really cooperative. Stay with Abuelita! After calling to her, Aldo finally had to crawl under there and pull her out. Blanca was screaming the whole time. His mother-in-law told him it was just because Blanca has a hard time making changes.
But it still was a rotten way to end a long day. When you have a challenging encounter with a parent, you can use the steps below to get things back on track in order to provide the best care for the child you all care so deeply about. Tuning in to your feelings is very important. But her niece, Tasha, is often late to pick him up and never calls.